Do you really think your chronic worrying is altering anything in life or existence? Of course you don’t! Chronic worry is no more than a life stealing addiction. The addiction is mental; affecting your health and life.
I am not going to waste your time with how chronic worry is affecting your health, relationships, career, sleep, driving ability, and God knows what else. You already know that. What I am going to do is to give you a few ideas that will start you on the path to relief from chronic worry.
You simply cannot correct this habitual pessimistic method of facing life quickly. Once I became aware that I was either in the failures of the past or the doom of the future it took some time and effort to break the addiction.
Breaking the Addiction To Chronic Worrying
Worry is first and foremost a continuous streaming of thoughts and conversations concerning the future and the past—in your head. So, what you’re looking for are methods to stop it and get into now, and that’s what we’re going to talk about.
1. Start meditating
Most worriers aren’t aware of the non stop head chatter. A regular regime of 45 minutes of focused meditation is the door into your chatter. This is where you learn that head chatter labors to overwhelm you and where you learn to dismiss and ignore it. Because meditation opens a door into your self that otherwise remains closed, it should be the first step into breaking the addiction of agreeing with negativity.
2. Stop agreeing with yourself
You know that worrying about the past or the future is completely useless. It can’t possibly change anything, because it’s an imaginary fantasy land. But that doesn’t keep you from hearing the conversations in your head. Nothing is forcing you to agree, pay attention to, or take part in this self talk. Becoming aware of the conversation gives you an opportunity to confront it. Saying no, either in your head, or out loud makes it clear to yourself that you are no longer interested.
3. Thinking has nothing to do with chronic worrying
Understanding the difference between thinking and chronic worrying is a milestone in pushing this demon out of your life. Thinking is to intentionally use your mind to objectively evaluate a given situation in order to gain from an end result. Because there is no such thing as worrying with a positive out come, worry is always negative and mentally playing with negative results. Thinking and worrying are two different actions of the mind. All Worry is either projecting negativity into the future or the past. There is no such thing as worrying in the present moment.
4. Practicing the art and habit of mindfulness keeps you now
Mindfulness is not meditation. Mindfulness is the practice of drinking coffee when you are drinking coffee, showering when you are showering, or brushing your teeth when you are brushing your teeth. What we normally do is spend the time we are brushing our teeth going over the past or the future. Practicing mindfulness is the practice of being present in the very moment you are breathing in, and no other. If you think about it, chronic worry is like a private hobby you can do no matter what else you are doing. When you force your mind to focus on the simplest acts you are engaged in, it can’t entertain the guest in your head; the ruminating thoughts.
5. Keeping a journal keeps you in touch with who you are
Keeping a journal is paramount when it comes to any personal growth or empowerment. Five or ten minutes a day to handwrite what happens to be going on in your head makes you conscious of hidden ideas. A journal needs to be your most private possession, because it needs to be you inner most self transformed to a sheet of paper. This journal is the place to “let it all hang out”. Record what ever comes up, anger, joy, excitement, resentments, hate, fears, worries: what ever comes out is you, so do not deny it. Denial stops all growth. Getting it out makes room for more positive energy.
6. Filling your mind with better things to think about
Chronic Worrying comes from abstract fears deep within your sub conscious mind. Any chronic worrier is living in fear based head chatter. You will never be able to live your life without head chatter coming from your subconscious mind. Changing the ongoing conversation deletes a place for worry and as a bonus gives you quick anxiety relief. That’s why it’s imperative that you begin the act of forcing new information into your mind. Give your mind something positive to ruminate on. I’m not too much into “positive” thinking, but I am in to memorizing positive quotes and reading the bible out loud every day. Force feeding your mind with positive energy and learning to be grateful will change your life, and the life of the people around you.
7. Gratitude and worrying cannot coincide
Gratitude is the key to living a life free of worry and fears. Learning to be grateful for every single thing that comes into your life will fill you with something unexplainable and magnificent. In a state of gratitude there is no envy, no fear, and no place for worry to reside. As you increase your attitude of gratitude you begin to sense that everything in life is a gift. You start to see that there is no place to blame yourself for failures or need to worry about the future. Gratitude is truly the door to the greatest life possible, and the more you practice the wider the door opens.
Breaking the addiction to chronic worry doesn’t happen overnight, and takes your undivided attention. Once you start you will see that you are splintering it into smaller bite size pieces to overcome, and nothing happens until you begin.